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By: The truth. « existere (latin): to stand out, to emerge.

The truth. « existere (latin): to stand out, to emerge. — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 11:32:23 +0000

[...] nice to read that other twin moms find it really hard. There are also some who choose to take the hardness, and use to to help those that follow. It is a community unlike [...]

By: Judy

Judy — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 16:55:17 +0000

I love this post. Makes me wish to have a singleton...something my husband says NO to. .-= Judy´s last blog ..Bilingual vs Monolingual Talking Milestone =-.

By: April

April — Fri, 15 May 2009 18:55:36 +0000

I had a friend bring over her newborn the other day for dinner. Like your friend, she refuses to ever put the baby down! Not to eat, not to go to the bathroom! Plus she has an older kid to give attention to! I just don’t understand it! It won’t hurt the baby to put them in a swing for a few minutes! I think even with one baby I would still put them down. I believe in teaching kids independence and self entertainment. Even a young baby can learn they are not going to be held 24/7.

I just don’t remember the first year. My boys turned 2 last week and I sit here trying to remember and I can’t. It is all a blur. I don’t remember much good or bad. Just lots of feeding and not sleeping and crying. I don’t remember much of last month! It really does pass you by.

By: Nancy

Nancy — Wed, 13 May 2009 13:34:23 +0000

See…this is why you have a 3rd You can spend time holding/sniffing the 3rd, but know that you shouldn’t ALL the time because it would spoil him tee hee

Dang, you hit that TOTALLY right. I remember watching my sister with her singleton (knowing she’d have at least one more one day) thinking “man, a 2nd baby is going to be SOOOO different for her…she needs to put him DOWN!” lol Of course, I could never say that to her.

And I completely agree that having 2 at the same time made me a better mom. I’m much more calm/laid back about things than I would have been if I could have spent time worrying about the little things

By: snickollet

snickollet — Tue, 12 May 2009 15:27:06 +0000

I am with you 100%. Sometimes I want to have another baby just to know what having a singleton is like. Wouldn’t trade the experience of having twins for anything, of course, but I do wish that I’d been more “present” during those newborn days.

By: Michele

Michele — Tue, 12 May 2009 14:38:26 +0000

So well stated – I wish I could have articulated it myself.

(I think I am printing this out and adding to their baby books so my two 9 month old b/b twins will get it when they get older.)

Sal & Enzos Mom

By: Dana

Dana — Mon, 11 May 2009 18:04:46 +0000

Great post. Very well put.

I recently had lunch with some friends who just had their first baby. During lunch, they took turns holding her so the other could eat. How great to be able to do that! I was a bit jealous watching them.

But having two at once made me more calm, because I had to be! And I wouldn’t trade it for the world!

By: Nicole

Nicole — Mon, 11 May 2009 10:57:35 +0000

wow – this really eases some of the guilt I have had for feeling exactly same way: jealous of singleton moms and superior. Both are not the best feelongs to have and it makes me feel like maybe I am going about this parenting thing wrong if this is how I’m going to feel about it. So, knowing other MoTs out there have felt the same way is like getting a breath of fresh air.

Also, I would agree with another comment about the baby’s personality mattering a lot, too. My 5-month old twins (until recently, haha!) have been pretty easy going and although its never fun to be outnumbered by newborns/infants, I would never have traded two good babies for one colicky baby…

By: Lady

Lady — Mon, 11 May 2009 02:10:43 +0000

I’m making my husband read this. Thanks for putting into words what I cannot.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Mon, 11 May 2009 00:59:24 +0000

I ALWAYS SAY THIS TO ME FRIENDS WITH ONE BABY!! I MISSED OUT ON THE CUDDLING TIME BECAUSE THERE WAS ALWAYS ANOTHER BABY TO FEED, CHANGE, HOLD ETC.

I HAVE 2 YEAR OLD BOY AND GIRL TWINS AND WHEN PEOPLE ASK ME “HOW U DO IT” I JUST SAY “I DONT KNOW HOW TO DO IT ANY OTHER WAY. I JUST DO IT. TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME.”

THERE WAS ONE DAY I WENT TO A FRIENDS HOUSE TO SEE HER 1 WEEK OLD. I HAD MY TWINS WITH ME AND THEY WERE PRETTY OCCUPIED WITH TOYS. ETC THAT I GOT A CHANCE TO HOLD THE NEWBORN AND CUDDLE IT. WHEN I STARTED TO CRY MY FRIEND SORT OF GOT FREAKED OUT, BUT WHEN I EXPLANNED TO HER WHY, SO JUST STARED AT ME IN AMAZEMENT. SHE WAS SAD FOR ME.

I LOVE MY TWINS, I COULD NOT IMAGINE LIFE WITHOUT THEM. THEY ARE MY WORLD. I JUST WISH I WOULD HAVE TAKEN MORE TIME TO “CUDDLE” THEM.