Comments on: Differentiating Between Multiples

By: Nana

Nana — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 05:06:45 +0000

A great blog, Jenna. I find it hard to think about how to treat them individually when I can’t even reliably tell them apart. Thank goodness for the red toenails on your first-born twin daughter. When I get totally mixed up about who is who, I take off their socks and check for red toenails.

By: Sister

Sister — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 22:03:32 +0000

Fantastic, I love it. I’m really looking forward to your insights and views on motherhood (for future reference, of course).

By: Jamie

Jamie — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 19:35:42 +0000

I think our brains are wired to look for differences and similarities. Cavemen were probably doing it as a survival tool, “…is that human with the large head and third eye part of our tribe of big heads and third eyes? no, no he’s not, get him, he’s wearing a zebra loin cloth not a jaguar…”

We’re trying hard, as well, to not assign labels to our three children, but even in our everyday language we constantly are having to correct ourselves.

In our home we rarely talk about “twins” … we noticed early on that people place a lot of importance on that when they meet us and it makes my older daughter feel left out.

I think for all of us new moms, who don’t have school age children, the real challenge is going to come when teachers and peers start to attach labels to our kids. I’m not looking forward to that ….

By: Valerie

Valerie — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 15:01:55 +0000

A few months ago my IUGR baby surpassed his brother in weight and I still have a hard time not thinking about him as the “little brother”!

I am very thankful that they are so different, though. I really enjoy experiencing the world through their unique perspectives.

By: Linda Cust

Linda Cust — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 14:36:37 +0000

This is great! I look forward to the next posting.

By: Quadmama

Quadmama — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 14:34:30 +0000

People always seem stunned that my daughters have different personalities, likes and dislikes. They’re multiples, but they’re individuals. Some days one of them is the “best” at something and the next day one of her sisters does it better. And yet there are so many things they all do the same. It’s an interesting line to walk to figure out how to give our multiples a sense of individuality without ignoring their similarities.
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