Comments on: Guest Post: Counting Higher Than Two

By: Lisa

Lisa — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 21:04:02 +0000

My husband and I have been talking a lot about this lately more because we are contemplating the Great Snip than whether or not we want to expand our family. Our ID twins were a complete surprise to us and our hearts and home feel very full with our 10-month-old girls. We are wracked with guilt that we can’t spend more time with our neglected border collie, so it is hard to imagine adding another human to the mix. But we’ve decided that we are going to keep the door open for now, just in case…
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By: Ellen K.

Ellen K. — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 18:45:39 +0000

I forgot to answer the question about more fertility treatments. It was difficult for us to decide to try IVF, for which we had to pay entirely out of pocket, and we don’t have any frozen embryos. It’s almost guaranteed that we would need IVF for a future pregnancy, and $13K or more is too much to spend again. I’d like to get on with my life, which was almost consumed by infertility for 4 years, and even a surprise pregnancy would be pretty unwelcome right now, so I’m on BCP. If our twins had been easily won, I might feel differently, but the idea of TTC or doing IVF again is almost unbearable.
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By: Ellen K.

Ellen K. — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 18:25:43 +0000

I’m the older (and only) sibling of identical twins who are very close, and so we’re stopping with just our twins. Everyone looks horrified when I say so, but I know a few things about feeling left out. Three can be a very lonely number when the other two are always a team.
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By: Mommy, Esq.

Mommy, Esq. — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 17:38:05 +0000

Wow – so many great comments, I’m glad other MoMs have thought about this issue and can provide perspective!
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By: jen

jen — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 17:36:04 +0000

I too would love to expand our family – especially with another set of twins! my pregnancy record, sadly, is not good at all and I worry that I wouldn’t be able to adequately care for the family I already have if I was able to get pregnant again. we have embryos on ice as well and definitely wouldn’t shy away from fertility treatments if that was what it took.

By: Susan

Susan — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 17:21:04 +0000

Bring on the chaos! Our IVF boy twins were 19 months when our surprise girl twins arrived. We had 4 under 2! They are now 3 and 2. It is super hard work, but we are so glad they will be close in age and have each other. And really, we’re done with bottles; we’re done with night feedings; we’re done with infant gear; we’re done with teething; we’re nearing done with diapers. Forever. And for that, we are thankful.
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By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 16:12:37 +0000

One of the issues for us, I think, is how we would ever juggle a fresh IVF cycle and twins with me as a SAHM. It is such a time consuming, unpredictable roller coaster, it’s hard to imagine doing it with my two two year olds as well.

I have to agree with Nicole—if we ever went back, I’d leave the multiples up to the whims of fate. I’m not helping fate along at all this time!

By: Cindy

Cindy — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 15:59:14 +0000

I say good for you for knowing what you want and having the guts to go for it.
We have a 5 y/o girl and two 1 y/o girls running around. After becoming a mom for the first time, I was so very happy but it took me 3 years to get the guts up to have one more (and we were blessed with 2 – go figure). I am so very happy we decided to have more kids. I would even have another if I could, but I can’t, that is how much my heart has grown from adding children to our family. Yes, it is chaotic most times of the day, anyone with kids will tell you that, but as you know from having 2 already, your heart just grows bigger and your laughter and love increase exponentially.

By: Melanie

Melanie — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:43:08 +0000

My twins are #2 & #3, and my oldest is 2.5. So I do have 3 under 3. It’s a little crazy sometimes. Well, honestly, it’s a lot crazy sometimes. I too have fertility issues; it took 7 years for me to get pregnant with my oldest, and I was 35 when he was born. I had a tubal when my twins were born. I have lamented it several times, but it was probably a smart decision. I think it would be too tempting for me to go off birth control and see what happens.
I had to do IVF to get pregnant, so I could actually do it again if I really wanted to. But, #1: our financial planning was for two kids so we are already tight on money, which leads to #2: we don’t have the $$$ for another round of IVF, #3: I’m already 38. I wouldn’t intentionally have another child until all of these are potty trained, which would put me around 41, and #4: what if I have twins again?
If I were about 5 years younger, I would totally go for it.
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By: Nicole

Nicole — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 13:30:25 +0000

I have been thinking of baby #3 since the twins were about 4 months old. At first, my husband was on board, then he was unsure and now he is on board again. When we thought about how uneducated we were about all things baby (and I mean ALL things), having another one will seem so easy with everything we have learned. And, at least for me, I don’t feel like our family is done.
Unfortunately, we can’t start fertility treatments until I stop pumping so we will probably start after our Christmas vacation. We have three embryos on ice but we will only transfer one at a time this time!! I’d welcome twins if that’s what God has in store but I won’t be the one responsible for it
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