Comments on: The HER Within the Mot’her’ http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-her-within-the-mother/ Moms of Multiples Tell it Like it Is Wed, 08 Feb 2012 17:03:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jungletwins http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-her-within-the-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-5263 Jungletwins Tue, 14 Jul 2009 00:24:44 +0000 http://www.hdydi.com/?p=2958#comment-5263 Hmmm, well if I'm honest, I no sooner get back from one mini-vacay, when I'm already pining for/planning the next one! I think mini breaks from the house/routine, even if they're just one night, do so much to re-charge batteries and bring families closer. .-= Jungletwins´s last blog ..<a href="http://jungletwins.wordpress.com/2009/07/12/mini-vacay-iv-paradise-lost-then-found/" rel="nofollow">Mini Vacay IV : Paradise Lost…then Found.</a> =-. Hmmm, well if I’m honest, I no sooner get back from one mini-vacay, when I’m already pining for/planning the next one! I think mini breaks from the house/routine, even if they’re just one night, do so much to re-charge batteries and bring families closer.
.-= Jungletwins´s last blog ..Mini Vacay IV : Paradise Lost…then Found. =-.

]]> By: Cristal http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-her-within-the-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-5262 Cristal Mon, 13 Jul 2009 21:52:28 +0000 http://www.hdydi.com/?p=2958#comment-5262 Monday night book club, monthly MNO's with friends, long Sunday afternoons spent at the bookstore and being active in my local moms of preschoolers group are all things I do to recenter. And if I just need an hour or so for a quick recharge, I throw on my ipod and get lost in the wonderfulness of This American Life or Radiolab. .-= Cristal´s last blog ..<a href="http://mylovelettertosam.blogspot.com/2009/07/to-sophiaalexmax.html" rel="nofollow">To: Sophia.Alex.Max</a> =-. Monday night book club, monthly MNO’s with friends, long Sunday afternoons spent at the bookstore and being active in my local moms of preschoolers group are all things I do to recenter. And if I just need an hour or so for a quick recharge, I throw on my ipod and get lost in the wonderfulness of This American Life or Radiolab.
.-= Cristal´s last blog ..To: Sophia.Alex.Max =-.

]]> By: Lisa http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-her-within-the-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-5260 Lisa Mon, 13 Jul 2009 20:35:08 +0000 http://www.hdydi.com/?p=2958#comment-5260 Saturday morning long runs. I get to see friends at the start and then I get to run with my music outside through pretty neighborhoods and parks. I loved the ritual before I was pregnant and cherish it even more now. .-= Lisa´s last blog ..<a href="http://ferrariflies.blogspot.com/2009/07/why-isnt-it-ever-easy-warning-this.html" rel="nofollow"></a> =-. Saturday morning long runs. I get to see friends at the start and then I get to run with my music outside through pretty neighborhoods and parks. I loved the ritual before I was pregnant and cherish it even more now.
.-= Lisa´s last blog .. =-.

]]> By: MADMOMMA0926 http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-her-within-the-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-5259 MADMOMMA0926 Mon, 13 Jul 2009 20:22:46 +0000 http://www.hdydi.com/?p=2958#comment-5259 Awesome blog!! I agree 1oo% with what you identified as the need to "re-charge" yourself with something that you need in order to be more effective and well...in a better more patient mindset for your kids and other family members. As parents we often deny/downplay/ or outright ignore our own needs in the process of trying to be all that we can for our children. And in doing so, inadvertantly compromise our ability to be the best that we can for them. My husband is ex military and I remember him telling me that one of the first lessons that his Drill Instructors taught him was that ..."You can't take care of anyone else, if you're all "jacked up!" Funny how that lesson seems to transcend across various situations and settings in life. Obviously this lesson that you pointed out could apply to FATHERS as well as MoMs. Another great blog! Are you still coaching Mothers? I would like to know more. Do you have your own site? Awesome blog!! I agree 1oo% with what you identified as the need to “re-charge” yourself with something that you need in order to be more effective and well…in a better more patient mindset for your kids and other family members.

As parents we often deny/downplay/ or outright ignore our own needs in the process of trying to be all that we can for our children. And in doing so, inadvertantly compromise our ability to be the best that we can for them.

My husband is ex military and I remember him telling me that one of the first lessons that his Drill Instructors taught him was that …”You can’t take care of anyone else, if you’re all “jacked up!”

Funny how that lesson seems to transcend across various situations and settings in life. Obviously this lesson that you pointed out could apply to FATHERS as well as MoMs. Another great blog!

Are you still coaching Mothers? I would like to know more. Do you have your own site?

]]> By: Diane http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-her-within-the-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-5258 Diane Mon, 13 Jul 2009 20:10:16 +0000 http://www.hdydi.com/?p=2958#comment-5258 Attending weekly worship service at church is when I get centered, and how I stay centered amidst the chaos. I attended church regularly before having kids, now that I have 3 kids I leave the little ones (age 2) in the nursery in very capable hands and that one hour on Sunday morning of peace, is what keeps me going. It is probably my highest priority and without it I would fall to pieces. Don't know if it can be called "me" time, but it is "me and God" time which somehow multiplies the benefit. Attending weekly worship service at church is when I get centered, and how I stay centered amidst the chaos. I attended church regularly before having kids, now that I have 3 kids I leave the little ones (age 2) in the nursery in very capable hands and that one hour on Sunday morning of peace, is what keeps me going. It is probably my highest priority and without it I would fall to pieces. Don’t know if it can be called “me” time, but it is “me and God” time which somehow multiplies the benefit.

]]> By: Tracy http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-her-within-the-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-5256 Tracy Mon, 13 Jul 2009 18:31:55 +0000 http://www.hdydi.com/?p=2958#comment-5256 This is one thing I think I've been fairly good at. I have two ways that I carve out time for me... The first is during our a.m. nap. The VERY first thing that gets done (if I haven't already had the opportunity if I wake earlier than the kiddos) is I work out. I usually do a 45-60 minute exercise video. I love Turbo Jam, and find that it really makes me happy, so I do it. Everything else waits. The second priority is golf. I really missed my golf league the summer I was pregnant, so this season I told my husband that I called Wednesdays. Each Wednesday I golf with one of my good girlfriends, and we grab dinner at the club after. It is something I look forward to every single week. I encourage my husband to take time to himself, too, but he's not as good at it. Probably because he works outside the home and feels like when he's not working he wants to spend time with the kids and me. Anyway, I think this is sooo important. Good post. I know it's hard in the earlier months when it's all you can do to get enough sleep, a shower or let alone a hot meal, but once the kiddos get a bit older and more predictable, it does get easier. This is one thing I think I’ve been fairly good at. I have two ways that I carve out time for me…

The first is during our a.m. nap. The VERY first thing that gets done (if I haven’t already had the opportunity if I wake earlier than the kiddos) is I work out. I usually do a 45-60 minute exercise video. I love Turbo Jam, and find that it really makes me happy, so I do it. Everything else waits.

The second priority is golf. I really missed my golf league the summer I was pregnant, so this season I told my husband that I called Wednesdays. Each Wednesday I golf with one of my good girlfriends, and we grab dinner at the club after. It is something I look forward to every single week. I encourage my husband to take time to himself, too, but he’s not as good at it. Probably because he works outside the home and feels like when he’s not working he wants to spend time with the kids and me.

Anyway, I think this is sooo important. Good post. I know it’s hard in the earlier months when it’s all you can do to get enough sleep, a shower or let alone a hot meal, but once the kiddos get a bit older and more predictable, it does get easier.

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