Comments on: The unexpected side effect of separating multiples in day care http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-unexpected-side-effect-of-separating-multiples-in-day-care/ Moms of Multiples Tell it Like it Is Wed, 08 Feb 2012 17:03:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: grit http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-unexpected-side-effect-of-separating-multiples-in-day-care/comment-page-1/#comment-5191 grit Wed, 08 Jul 2009 08:01:00 +0000 http://www.hdydi.com/?p=2929#comment-5191 we followed what our girls wanted; they are together for the things they want to do together and apart for separate activities. admittedly, tuesdays is hard ... one is in dance, one is in horseriding, one is in a sailing club. and they all start at 4pm at three different sites around the town. we followed what our girls wanted; they are together for the things they want to do together and apart for separate activities. admittedly, tuesdays is hard … one is in dance, one is in horseriding, one is in a sailing club. and they all start at 4pm at three different sites around the town.

]]> By: Quadmama http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-unexpected-side-effect-of-separating-multiples-in-day-care/comment-page-1/#comment-5189 Quadmama Tue, 07 Jul 2009 19:39:45 +0000 http://www.hdydi.com/?p=2929#comment-5189 When my daughters started preschool last year I discussed at length with the coordinator whether to split them up. She said for the first year keep them together for my own sanity or I would be trying to juggle too many field trips, class parties, homework, etc. Even this year I opted to keep them together. Everyone wants to know when I'll separate them... maybe kindergarten, definitely first grade. It's a hard decision no matter when you make it. .-= Quadmama´s last blog ..<a href="http://buriedinlaundry.blogspot.com/2009/07/appointments-times-four.html" rel="nofollow">Appointments Times Four</a> =-. When my daughters started preschool last year I discussed at length with the coordinator whether to split them up. She said for the first year keep them together for my own sanity or I would be trying to juggle too many field trips, class parties, homework, etc. Even this year I opted to keep them together. Everyone wants to know when I’ll separate them… maybe kindergarten, definitely first grade. It’s a hard decision no matter when you make it.
.-= Quadmama´s last blog ..Appointments Times Four =-.

]]> By: Rachel http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-unexpected-side-effect-of-separating-multiples-in-day-care/comment-page-1/#comment-5186 Rachel Tue, 07 Jul 2009 17:22:47 +0000 http://www.hdydi.com/?p=2929#comment-5186 i guess to an extent, i've experienced some of this anyway (though the kids are at home with a nanny). my son's skin/butt is FAAARRRR more sensitive and requires different products. They wear different sizes in clothing and shoes. And so there are almost no economies of scale! .-= Rachel´s last blog ..<a href="http://rajencreation.wordpress.com/2009/07/06/in-lieu-of-worship/" rel="nofollow">In Lieu Of Worship</a> =-. i guess to an extent, i’ve experienced some of this anyway (though the kids are at home with a nanny). my son’s skin/butt is FAAARRRR more sensitive and requires different products. They wear different sizes in clothing and shoes. And so there are almost no economies of scale!
.-= Rachel´s last blog ..In Lieu Of Worship =-.

]]> By: estraven http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-unexpected-side-effect-of-separating-multiples-in-day-care/comment-page-1/#comment-5185 estraven Tue, 07 Jul 2009 17:10:56 +0000 http://www.hdydi.com/?p=2929#comment-5185 My fraternal twins haven't been separated, despite daycare and school policy. This at my earnest request, since I have one more child and a demanding job and couldn't deal with all the mess. Plus, they help each other (one is better academically, the other socially) and are extremely happy. They do occasionally separate without complaints (eg, the more social one may have a sleepover at a friend's while his brother enjoys family quiet) and only one chose to participate in an extracurricular sports activity. My fraternal twins haven’t been separated, despite daycare and school policy.
This at my earnest request, since I have one more child and a demanding job and couldn’t deal with all the mess. Plus, they help each other (one is better academically, the other socially) and are extremely happy.
They do occasionally separate without complaints (eg, the more social one may have a sleepover at a friend’s while his brother enjoys family quiet) and only one chose to participate in an extracurricular sports activity.

]]> By: Eva http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-unexpected-side-effect-of-separating-multiples-in-day-care/comment-page-1/#comment-5184 Eva Tue, 07 Jul 2009 16:59:17 +0000 http://www.hdydi.com/?p=2929#comment-5184 We are really lucky with the sharing things -- we have shared sunblock etc too (though clothes less so as they are such different sizes!). I confess I kind of wish our daycare had the same moving up rule, maybe it would motivate my other one, too! .-= Eva´s last undefined ..<a href="0" rel="nofollow">If you register your site for free at </a> =-. We are really lucky with the sharing things — we have shared sunblock etc too (though clothes less so as they are such different sizes!). I confess I kind of wish our daycare had the same moving up rule, maybe it would motivate my other one, too!
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]]> By: Goddess in Progress http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-unexpected-side-effect-of-separating-multiples-in-day-care/comment-page-1/#comment-5183 Goddess in Progress Tue, 07 Jul 2009 15:59:55 +0000 http://www.hdydi.com/?p=2929#comment-5183 How funny, totally wouldn't have anticipated those complications! Here's to hoping Alex decides to jump on the potty bandwagon and life gets easier for a little while. :-) How funny, totally wouldn’t have anticipated those complications! Here’s to hoping Alex decides to jump on the potty bandwagon and life gets easier for a little while. :-)

]]> By: shawn http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-unexpected-side-effect-of-separating-multiples-in-day-care/comment-page-1/#comment-5181 shawn Tue, 07 Jul 2009 14:53:47 +0000 http://www.hdydi.com/?p=2929#comment-5181 I can't wait for my girls to have separate identities instead of being treated as a unit. I've already started to try and wean myself off that thought pattern that has so greatly become a source of sanity and convenience. The girls spent their first day apart yesterday as L was home sick and J chose to go to school without her! Big day; no hugs at the end, though. I can’t wait for my girls to have separate identities instead of being treated as a unit. I’ve already started to try and wean myself off that thought pattern that has so greatly become a source of sanity and convenience.

The girls spent their first day apart yesterday as L was home sick and J chose to go to school without her! Big day; no hugs at the end, though.

]]> By: Diane http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-unexpected-side-effect-of-separating-multiples-in-day-care/comment-page-1/#comment-5180 Diane Tue, 07 Jul 2009 14:28:28 +0000 http://www.hdydi.com/?p=2929#comment-5180 Your post also brings to mind what challenges lay ahead for me, as my boys just turned two (and my older son just finished first grade). As twins head into real school, another challenge will be how to meet the very real need for individual homework attention and help. With my first grader, we needed to be very hands on to move him along academically. It is WAY different than when I was in first grade (at least in VA). With twins, there will be no rest for the weary, especially as they may be at different levels in development & learning every step of the way. I have largely treated my boys as a "unit" up until this point, out of sheer necessity just to get through the day and deal with my older son's needs too. For me it is juggling all the boys needs that is my undoing, or at least it feels that way very often. Your post also brings to mind what challenges lay ahead for me, as my boys just turned two (and my older son just finished first grade). As twins head into real school, another challenge will be how to meet the very real need for individual homework attention and help. With my first grader, we needed to be very hands on to move him along academically. It is WAY different than when I was in first grade (at least in VA). With twins, there will be no rest for the weary, especially as they may be at different levels in development & learning every step of the way. I have largely treated my boys as a “unit” up until this point, out of sheer necessity just to get through the day and deal with my older son’s needs too. For me it is juggling all the boys needs that is my undoing, or at least it feels that way very often.

]]> By: Diane http://www.hdydi.com/2009/07/the-unexpected-side-effect-of-separating-multiples-in-day-care/comment-page-1/#comment-5178 Diane Tue, 07 Jul 2009 14:21:42 +0000 http://www.hdydi.com/?p=2929#comment-5178 Enjoy the day care years while you can. Real school presents a host of challenges for working parents, which I didn't bargain for when my son entered kindergarten. Such as, needing to plan for (and pay for) "before school" and/or "after school" and/or winter break, spring break, summer break and teacher workdays when school closes. Wise (working) parents play WAY ahead of time for this. In some states and counties, there is a "school age child care" located at the public school but waiting lists can be long. I registered one year in advance for "after kindergarten" care at my son's school in FAirfax VA, the smartest thing I ever did. Daycare is a breeze for working parents, compared to regular school!! Enjoy the day care years while you can. Real school presents a host of challenges for working parents, which I didn’t bargain for when my son entered kindergarten. Such as, needing to plan for (and pay for) “before school” and/or “after school” and/or winter break, spring break, summer break and teacher workdays when school closes. Wise (working) parents play WAY ahead of time for this. In some states and counties, there is a “school age child care” located at the public school but waiting lists can be long. I registered one year in advance for “after kindergarten” care at my son’s school in FAirfax VA, the smartest thing I ever did. Daycare is a breeze for working parents, compared to regular school!!

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