Comments on: I Wasn’t Expecting This

By: Janel

Janel — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 00:41:34 +0000

We were unusual. We planned for one baby. We were going to have an only child, and be done with having kids.
The cool thing is, we get to have one of each. We wouldn’t have had that if our plan had pulled through.
I can also see that the lure of “just one more,” might have pulled at me. Watching my singleton mommy friends go through baby and toddler simultaneously… I just am thankful that we did it all at once. It’s hard, and painful, but it’s also a blur. The quick band-aid approach.
We’re homing in on a year (in late October), and I can see the vast difference in the amount of attention and time my two require vs. newborn/toddler. Getting through all that only to start over again? Nope. I wouldn’t take back a minute, not even one, but it’s been hard.
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By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 03:45:38 +0000

I was another one with a toddler and newborn twins, and I was SO JEALOUS of people who had one baby at a time. I was also very jealous of other moms of twins who didn’t have another mobile child.

But I do think having all four of my children in 4 years is a great advantage. They are able to play together quite a bit, and are interested in the same things. They bicker, but they are close. I spend a lot of time mediating but little time entertaining them.
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By: Barbara Manatee

Barbara Manatee — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 03:15:19 +0000

People always told me that having twins must’ve been sooo hard to handle – 2 babies at once! gasp! – but I often said that I imagined in the long run that was easier than having a toddler and a baby to contend with at the same time. Well….like Amber above….that came back to me later when I got PG when my twins were just 18 months old. As I read through her comment, I fee like she said everything I was going to say. “Just one” is a piece of cake after two. But one WITH 2 toddlers running around – can be very, very tough…and my kids are honestly pretty good kids (baby included).

I still feel pretty confident and Super Woman-like when I can conquer an outing with all 3 alone while my friends are still facing their fears of getting out with 1 or 2. I’m not going to let 3 lil ones stop us from having fun and getting out. You learn to juggle and manage, no matter what your family composition is…

And while I had a bit of a panic attack when I realized I’d have 3 so close in age…I am VERY glad now for the reasons that the toughest times are past us and it’ll just keep getting easier from here as well as the fact that I love that they’ll grow up so close together. Both my husband and I grew up in families where us kids were really spread out (i.e. 16 year age span between 4 kids). I hope they’ll always have a close bond.
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By: amber

amber — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 02:50:26 +0000

My twins were 26 months old when my third baby was born this last April. Twin two year olds and a newborn have been very difficult, but not anywhere near as difficult as two newborns. Now I finally understand why everyone else looked at me during the first two years of twins and thought I was crazy–now I know how much easier one newborn could be (note: “could be”; not “is”–depends on the baby) and understand why all of my friends just didn’t get why I did things the way I did. I also can now tell how one toddler and one newborn would still be easier than what I’ve got now, but I would never trade my situation for something different!

By: nonlineargirl

nonlineargirl — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 20:47:42 +0000

I can relate – I look a bit wistfully at people with one baby and an older kid, as I try to juggle twin infants and a preschooler.

After struggling with a colicky singleton there are days I think 2 calm babies are easier than that was. The problem is that I still only have 2 arms, and the twins both need me at once. And so does my 4 year old. Tired tired tired.
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By: Amanda

Amanda — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 20:04:39 +0000

Well we have a 5 year old and the twins are almost 2. It couldn’t of worked out better! When they were born he was old enough to do many things on his own. Now that they can hold his hand walking into a store if needed, or he can unbuckle one in the back, he’s like mommy’s little helper! I know everyone gives you the mortified look when you tell them twins but I think it is WAY easier at this stage with two the same age. But everyone’s situation is different along with everyone’s perspective. But my biggest plus is just having them on the same schedule for everything. It just takes us twice as long for some tasks.

By: Andrea Melberg Thompson

Andrea Melberg Thompson — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 19:19:37 +0000

My twins are 2 1/2. A dear friend of mine has a 14 month old. A while before the child turned one, she lamented that she was NOT pregnant with another baby. I gave her a glaring look and told her I thought one little toddler and one very tiny baby seemed like a heck of a job (sense two toddlers is a job, but…different)… and what would waiting a few more months be?? Everyone finds their own best way though! : )
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By: Rebecca S.

Rebecca S. — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 15:15:27 +0000

Try having a 2 year old and twin babies! That's my current lot in life. The twins are almost 5 months old now and while they may not sleep non-stop for 12 hours, I really can't complain on the sleep front so things are starting to get easier. However, I know they will get harder again once they become mobile! Eek! I really envy my friends who have one toddler and one baby! .-= Rebecca S.´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday: Apple Picking =-.

By: Mommy, Esq.

Mommy, Esq. — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 14:21:27 +0000

This is exactly why I know if we don’t have a third soon I won’t want a third – I’ll be too happy to have more independent kids. My sister has two that are 2.5 year apart and it is hard not having the kids on the same routine/schedule. MoMs are lucky that we do.
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By: Sadia

Sadia — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 13:46:17 +0000

I think, for me, having two has always been easier, mostly because it forced me to have realistic expectations of what I can and can't accomplish. I'd definitely say that even infancy was probably easier with two of the same age than two of different ages. I figure that tandem nursing was simpler than trying to explain to a two- or three-year-old why they can't have mommy's milk! Also, I cannot fathom being pregnant while having a child to care for by myself. .-= Sadia´s last blog ..The potty trainers' club =-.