Comments on: Which Came First

By: Katie

Katie — Fri, 04 Jun 2010 21:31:35 +0000

This question is one of the ones that actually doesn't bother me. Hmmmm. Never really thought about it, but not many people ask. My ID boys are 7 minutes apart, just FYI. .-= Katie´s last blog ..Baby Registry Post 'cause I'm helpful like that =-.

By: andrea

andrea — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 00:42:35 +0000

yeah, it bothers me too. we haven´t told anyone and i doubt we´ll even tell the boys. i don´t want silly fights and labels just because of a few minute´s difference.

By: Kathy

Kathy — Sat, 29 May 2010 03:58:01 +0000

Mine were born 7 hours apart on different days, so yep, no hiding which one is older. I think it is completely different from singular birth order, and have said ‘big sister/little brother’ even though size-wise it is exactly opposite. I think our story is so unique, and tell it as ‘My daughter got tired of being kicked by her brother so she headed out… my son then decided this was pretty comfy and wanted to stick around for a while’. Being twins trumps all conventionality of non-twin sibling relationships. If people aren’t weird about this topic there will just be something else to drive you bonkers anyway.

By: Jennifer U

Jennifer U — Fri, 28 May 2010 20:19:07 +0000

We decided not to tell everyone. In my husband's family, who is first born is a big deal. I know, my husband knows, my doctor knows, and they guy at the birth certificate office knows. Other than that, it doesn't really matter. .-= Jennifer U´s last blog ..Words to Melt Your Heart =-.

By: Erin

Erin — Fri, 28 May 2010 19:25:00 +0000

Delaney was Baby A. My girls are identical and there were placental insufficiencies. As a result, Delaney is bigger all around, generally about 3 pounds more than her sister and an inch taller. People always ask who is older and it pleases them to no end that Delaney was born first. I'm half tempted to lie just so they don't get the satisfaction! .-= Erin´s last blog ..Never gets old =-.

By: Leigh from 123 blog

Leigh from 123 blog — Fri, 28 May 2010 18:58:22 +0000

I hate this question because Connor, my 2nd born is so much bigger than Kendra the firstborn.

And I honestly think it has nothing to do with their personalities
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By: Judy

Judy — Fri, 28 May 2010 15:14:59 +0000

This question bothers me too. I try to avoid putting labels on my girls as much as possible. I usually answer, “They were born only one minute apart so it doesn’t matter” That usually suffices. Twice I’ve had people say that they could tell which one was older and had a triumphant look if they got it right. I was like, “oh good for you, are you happy now?”. I try to stop myself from rolling my eyes.

The girls have seen the c-section tape so they know who comes out first. I figure as long as I don’t make a deal out of it, they won’t make a deal out of it. Though, if it does become an issue I’ll see if they can hash it out on their own.

By: Jules @ Partners In Crime

Jules @ Partners In Crime — Fri, 28 May 2010 14:20:29 +0000

I'm not phased by the question & always answer. I even use big brother/little brother. .-= Jules @ Partners In Crime´s last blog ..Blog Hops, Following & Giveaways. =-.

By: Mama Mama Quite Contrary

Mama Mama Quite Contrary — Fri, 28 May 2010 13:15:41 +0000

Whoops… I forgot the “e” in Senegalese!
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By: Mama Mama Quite Contrary

Mama Mama Quite Contrary — Fri, 28 May 2010 13:14:00 +0000

Great picture and such a thoughtful post!

I think I have only gotten this question once and it hasn’t bothered me (yet!) My girls are 4 minutes apart but the baby born first was Baby B in the initial ultrasound. She switched position a couple weeks before the birth.

If my daughters ever ask, I will tell them the truth. I will also tell them that in some cultures (like the Sengalese) the people believe that the baby born first is actually the youngest because the “older” twin stays behind to make sure the first baby gets out safely. Seems like a nice antidote to the mentality that older is somehow better.