Moms of multiples tell it like it is

I was pretty sure that parenting girls would be easier than parenting boys.  I had my son Isaiah first, four years ago.  He was all boy, right off the bat.   He climbed everything, tried anything, and showed no signs of fear.  He started walking at 10 months, was running by 11 months.  Months 12-28 were exhausting.  My [...]

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Technical difficulties prevented this post from being published on Sunday, October 10. M and J are five years old. In all those years, neither of them has ever asked for time away from her sister. From time to time, they have chosen to pursue different activities with one parent or the other, but my husband [...]

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“Which twin is older?” The question is absurd. In China, I get it all the time. And it works me up. “They are twins. They are the same age.” I reply, irritated. “Yes, but they didn’t both come out at the same time, did they? One had to have been born first.” They insist, “Is [...]

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My daughter, Tiny, has oozed with confidence since the moment her personality started to emerge. In her mind, there is nothing she can’t do, and she fearlessly tries new things without even a second thought. She is a joiner, and will often seek out other kids to play with whether she knows them or not. [...]

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The other night, during one of our now typical epic bedtime failures, I started laughing so hard at the scene in front of me, thinking about Super Nanny – I think, at least, it’s her that says this — looking at me and my husband and asking with great disdain, “Who’s in charge here?” The [...]

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I first heard someone refer to my twins as “double trouble” when I was still pregnant with Tiny and Buba. And it seemed that every time I pushed my sweet, little babies in the double stroller through the grocery store (yes, pulling the cart behind me) I’d hear that comment, “You’ve got double trouble!” at [...]

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At first, they barely seemed to notice each other. I think my twins were at least six or seven months old before they really seemed to notice that the other baby was there, before they really started to interact. As older infants, one might grab something out of the other one’s hand, but most of [...]

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Cross-posted from my personal blog, Goddess in Progress Twins or otherwise, I think every mom wishes her children would be good friends in addition to just siblings. Some hope age works in their favor, others put some faith in gender, and certainly the twin moms hope that there’s that mystical “twin bond” that everyone goes [...]

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In my last post, I wrote about how my oldest daughter is angry and acting out, jealous over the attention her twin brothers get from us, each other, their extended family, and from the public at large. When the boys were little, we tried to make sure our daughter got special attention from us. She [...]

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I’ve got one in my pair, do you? My daughter, Rebecca, has always been more of the goody-two-shoes than her brother.  Which is not to say that she isn’t clever and sneaky and a challenge in her own way, of course. But for the most part, she’s a rule-follower.  In fact, I would go so [...]

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